scaring up a friend

isn't it funny how we struggle to keep our birthday party guest list at 50 people, because you can't possibly leave out any of your friends, but when it comes to scaring up a single friend to do something such as attend a class or go shopping with, you can't seem to find anyone? and this isn't even a bitter rant about friends deserting friends or not knowing who your real friends are, it's just a mildly intrigued observation. i don't really know why this, the aforementioned conundrum that is, seems to happen. perhaps it's because when we seek out a single friend to partake in a specific activity with, we are looking for the kind of friend we can spend some one-on-one time together without arguing or falling into any kind of mishap, someone that we're close to and can enjoy their company without other people having to be around. and maybe those kind of people don't happen to be available on the particular day we would like to spend with them, and then while we may very well have thirty other people we could call to join us instead, we'd really rather not. or maybe the 'other' people that we run through in our mind or our contact list come with strings attached to other people that we'd rather not have tag along on a day of tete-a-tete friendship fun, for example a boyfriend, girlfriend, other friend or sibling. the list of possibilities goes on. and as i hash out this riddle in my brain and on this screen, my fingers grow tired of typing and my mind wanders onto other topics which are less fascinating to blog about but more appealing to my slightly sleep-deprived mind. the end.